January 2nd, 2014

Congratulations! The first 8 things to do when you get engaged

Maine Winter Engagement<br><a href=http://carriepellerin.com/winter-maine-engagement-sb/ target=_blank>Carrie Pellerin</a>

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Maybe you’ve been waiting for this day for months, or maybe you were completely surprised when he popped the question. But now that the initial shock has worn off and the anticipation of the proposal is turning into the excitement of planning for your big day, you may want to get started on the planning process as soon as you can open your Pinterest page.

Here are our suggestions for the first steps to planning your wedding after you get engaged.

Call your relatives

Of course, you’ve called your parents and your siblings and had a chance to laugh and cry with them. But before you start posting engagement photos online, as tempting as it may be, call your extended family to share the news. Even if you rarely talk to them in person or by phone, this simple gesture and a 2 minute telephone call can make a world of difference.

Be ready to tell your engagement story a million times

It is inevitably the first thing every person will ask you. “How did they propose?” Don’t skimp on the details, even though you’ve told the same story a dozen times. It is a truly special moment and your friends and family want to hear all the sappy or hilarious details.

Get your ring resized

Your new ring is stunning, but it might still have some wiggle room. Don’t risk letting it slip off your finger while flaunting it around. Take it to a jeweler ASAP. Especially if you aren’t used to having a ring on your finger, having it properly sized can help a new ring feel more comfortable and secure.

Set the season and year

The question that immediately follows your engagement story will be “When are you getting married?” Although you don’t need to set a firm date, it can be extremely helpful to choose a tentative season and year. The summer of 2015 or fall of 2020? People appreciate that you are keeoing them in the loop and it will give you and your partner some direction when you start to plan.

Plan a night out with your fiancé to celebrate

It can be wonderful to have family and friends come out of the woodwork to celebrate this huge life changing moment with you. But don’t forget that engagements and weddings are about starting a life together as partners. Take a night to celebrate as a couple and look to an amazing future together.

Make some big decisions as a team

After you celebrate together, and definitely not on the same night, make sure you talk about some of the big planning questions together. What type of wedding? (traditional, destination, offbeat) What size? (intimate, family and friends, large party) What size wedding party? (Just siblings, 2-3 closest friends, 6-10 large party) Make sure you are on the same page before your parents and BFF’s start offering their suggestions for what they want and what worked for them. You will be able to answer with clarity and confidence and avoid potentially hurt feelings.

Start a savings account

Even small weddings cost money. And planning ahead can help you avoid relying on credit cards when unexpected costs start to add up in the weeks before the wedding. And those last minute costs are unavoidable even for the most organized couples. Start a separate savings account when you get engaged (or even before) and start putting away a small amount from your paycheck every month until the wedding.

Have fun

Don’t rush through things and enjoy the planning process. This is your moment to celebrate how far you’ve come as a couple and how you want to start the rest of your life together. That’s so exciting! Don’t get too caught up in family politics or minute details of planning. Rely on other people to help when you need it and keep the planning process manageable. This is your big day, so enjoy it!

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December 26th, 2013

Caught in the Moment: The Chair Dance

The traditional jewish Hora, or chair dance is always more fun as a guest with two feet on the ground. A lot of faith is put on the strength and commitment of your friends and family not to drop you during this adrenaline fueled exhilarating moment. This couple is having a ton of fun and we feel like we are there in the moment.

Great job to the photographer, Amber Gress, for capturing this wonderful moment.

Caught in the Moment Chair Dance

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December 23rd, 2013

Wedding Terms Defined: Cakes and Desserts

Have you been in a meeting with your wedding planner, caterer or florist and not known what the heck is going on? Sometimes wedding vendors use very specific language and don’t go out of their way to explain to you what they mean.

We want to break down the walls of communication and make sure you go into your planning sessions knowing what you want and knowing what you’re talking about.

In this series we will explain what typical wedding words mean and help you figure out what works best for your special day.

Let’s start with cakes. We’ve all baked cookies and cakes and even if you’re really great in the kitchen, having a pro design and build your wedding cake is an absolute necessity. They have tools and techniques for creating things we could never imagine. Unfortunately, these tools and techniques come disguised in terms you’ve likely never heard before. Before ordering a cake you may not enjoy, here are the most common cake and dessert terms.

Wedding Terms Defined: Cakes and Desserts

Buttercream: The most common type of icing. It’s soft, creamy and sweet, made of butter, sugar and milk. Your baker can use it to cover the outside of your cake and/or as a filling in between the layers.

Cornelli: A form of piping that creates a three-dimensional pattern of lace and squiggles.

Dragees: Decorative silver-coated balls made of sugar.

Fondant: Icing made of sugar, gelatin, corn syrup and glycerin that has a firm yet tender texture and a smooth, porcelain-like finish. It’s more expensive than buttercream because decorating with it is more complicated and labor-intensive.

Ganache: A dark, rich combination of chocolate and cream used as a filling or icing.

Genoise: A French sponge cake that’s drier than American cakes. Typically soaked in a liqueur syrup and layered with fruit fillings or flavored whipped cream.

Groom’s Cake: A cake made in addition to your wedding cake that is often smaller and specific to the interests of the groom. They are usually highly decorative and colorful.

Marzipan: Hardened almond paste and sugar, this confection is traditionally used to make realistic cake toppings. It can be rolled and used as icing.

Royal Icing: A hard, brittle and not-very-tasty type of icing made of sugar and egg whites. It’s used mostly for sculptural decorations, like roses, swirls and dots.

Table Cakes: Can be used as a substitute for floral centerpieces, which can save you money. These individualized cakes can be used as centerpieces throughout the meal.

Check out our Pinterest Page: Cake-Making Wedding Terms for visual examples of these delicious cake-making techniques.

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December 18th, 2013

8 Social Media Etiquette Rules For Couples

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The etiquette for using social media during your engagement and wedding is new territory. It is undeniable that in a socially connected world, we will want to share these major life moments with friends and family. And what better way than by posting to Facebook or tweeting about your wedding plans. But as we all have experienced, sharing our moments with thousands of our friends via social media, sometimes costs us the experience of “being in the moment” with the few people who are closest to us.

In particular, weddings are a difficult place to choose between the importance of tradition and the ease of technology. Our best advice is to decide on your social media plan with your partner and make sure that during the planning process that plan is clear. If you choose to be social friendly, provide friends with a hashtag to capture all of their images, comments and posts. If you want the wedding to be tech-free, make sure to include a simple note on your wedding website and in the program.

There is no need to feel guilty about asking for guests to follow a particular etiquette, they will appreciate the clarity.

Here are 8 rules (consider them guidelines) that have become the norm for social media etiquette leading up to the big day:

1. Call close friends and family before posting ANYTHING to social media.

This is worth repeating. Do not post to social media before contacting all of your family members and closest friends. You may be caught up in the excitement of the moment and your natural inclination is to spread the word on twitter, but take the time to consider your family. Even if you have to wait a day or two to connect with family members who don’t answer your call, the wait will be well worth it when you get to hear and see the response on people’s faces.

2. It’s ok to post images of your ring, but hold off on details

This is common place. It is exciting to show everyone the gorgeous ring you’ve been waiting for. And god knows, whoever bought it wants to get the most use out of it. But posting prices, where you got it and carat size are unnecessary details (and frankly, kind of tacky) People want to hear your story, not see the price-tag.

3. Limit your posts

We think it’s great to post about your engagement. It’s a thrilling moment and everyone wants to share. But getting engaged doesn’t mean the rest of your life stops. Make sure that you don’t flood your feed with wedding planning posts and passive aggressive notes about your future mother-in-law. A few cute posts of your engagement photos or bridal shower are really nice, but there is a limit and you will quickly start to lose friends/followers.

4. Be Yourself, Turn off the Internet and Be Creatively YOU

This suggestion is an attempt to save your sanity. Pinterest and Tumblr can make planning a wedding seem easier. But what we are hearing from brides is quite the opposite. Pinterest is filled with unrealistic images of staged weddings and links that lead nowhere. You may fall in love with a dress but never find the shop to purchase it. You may fall in love with an outdoor wedding in Yosemite and be unable to recreate the scene for your Florida nuptuals. We suggest planning your dream wedding with the internet turned OFF. Then once you have your ideas set, use social platforms to search for details that will help you manage conversations with your florist, caterer and wedding planner.

5. Relationship status doesn’t really matter.

If you’re a facebook fiend, updating your relationship status can mean serious business. But there is no rule about changing your status. Once you’re married, you may choose to change your status, but few people outside of your immediate group of friends and family will care, and they should know before the change is made. (see Rule #1)

6. Recruit a designated tweeter

Everyone has one friend who wins at the internet. They post memes before they are memes, and they always take the most flattering instagram images. Ask this person to be your designated tweeter and keep the internet fluttering with news from your wedding. This will be appreciated from guests who couldn’t make it for your big day and for you to look back on later. But it will free you up to truly enjoy the moments and not have to worry about your phone, taking pictures or responding to comments.

7. Don’t ditch tradition

We love the ease of technology, especially when it comes to invitations. But sending a printed invite goes a long way in connecting with family and friends who are not as tech savvy as your closest friends. Feel free to send an evite, but also send paper invitations. They don’t need to be overly fancy or expensive, it’s the thought and effort that counts.

8. Be natural on your wedding day

If you are a tech lover, use technology, don’t force yourself to keep your phone off. If you want to enjoy the peace of a day unattached to technology, pass on the social media to someone you trust, or ask everyone to go tech-free. Just do what is most natural for you and your partner, your guests will follow your lead.

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December 17th, 2013

3 Dazzling Blue Color Palettes

The Spring 2014 Pantone Colors of the Year have been announced and we are thrilled that Dazzling Blue made the top spot.

But now what?

Figuring out the palettes, and complimentary combinations that bring out the best of a single color can be tough. We started with creating a mood. From there choosing a palette happened fairly easily. Decide what you feeling you want people to have when they walk in the room, energetic? romantic? awe?

Here are our favorite 3 palettes to inspire your spring wedding. Dazzling Blue and Tangerine | Blue & Mint | Blue & Gold & Sand

Blue and Tangerine create a poppy modern color palette that will set the mood for an energized and exciting wedding. The 2 colors bring out the best in each other and can be paired with other subtle tones like cream, tans, matte gold or yellow.

Blue & Tangerine Inspiration Board

Blue & Mint are two popular colors on their own, but seeing them side by side is stunning. A sleek and hip twist to a romantic color palette.

Blue & Mint Inspiration Board

This color palette is great for any time of year, we will likely see this combination in Fall/Winter of 2014 as well. The rich textures and colors create a sophistication that translates to rustic settings or urban locations.

Blue & Gold & Sand Inspiration Board

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